This is an interesting one. Only once can I remember being accused of being prideful and it was relatively recent. It caused me to research the difference. Before I go into the difference, I want to make one declaration. Never blindly believe about yourself what others say about you. Examine yourself. If they’re right, then you know where you can grow. If they’re wrong, their offense becomes their problem to overcome and that has to be trusted into God’s care. Their offense may last a long time and even distort their view of you. The enemy works that way – but that’s a different blog.
I’ll list some differences between pride and confidence below, but the most important thing to understand is that a confident person is confident in what they know, but they also realize they don’t know it all. A confident person will still desire to grow. The prideful person will think they’ve arrived. Realizing that I KNOW KNOW KNOW that I don’t know it all and that I’m consistently thirsty for growth, understanding and knowledge become my litmus test.
The second way to know if you’re confident and not prideful is if you desire to see OTHERS succeed. The prideful person will want to receive all recognition and all glory and will try to suppress the growth of others. The confident person seeks to lift others up and exalt them. This is my second litmus test. Do I want others to grow and succeed even beyond me? YES!!!!
Here are some additional comparisons:
Pride stops learning – Confidence craves knowledge
Pride blames others – Confidence can say “I’m sorry”
Pride focuses on self – Confidence focuses on others
Confidence says “I can do it” – Pride says “Only I can do it”
Confidence knows their weakness – Pride has none
Experience creates confidence. The confident have a history of successes to draw from. Here are a few more differences I found from benreed.net
1. Pride Never Says They’re Wrong
2. Pride Doesn’t accept input
3. Pride Doesn’t accept correction
4. Pride doesn’t take others into account
5. Pride craves recognition for what they’ve done
1. Confident person measures their choices and actions with wisdom
2. Confident person weighs input from others and moves forward
3. Confident person doesn’t proceed through selfish ambitions
4. Confident person realizes they can’t do it alone
5. Confident person knows who they are and who they aren’t
6. Confident person works to build others up.
So, this was a bit of insight into myself that I gained through criticism, but the result allowed me to be sure even when the other person didn’t see it that way. I can walk in God’s declaration of who I am, CONFIDENTLY, all the while guarding my heart against prideful actions.
Every article I read about pride and confidence assured me of one thing – it’s a terribly thin line between the two.